“Writing is like sex. Keep moving.

Go with the flow.

And don’t criticize during the act.”

Natalie Goldberg,
author of Living the Writer’s Life

Most people know that sex releases “feel good” chemicals in our brains. Any many will have heard of the “runner’s high” that can do the same. They can give you your daily D.O.S.E. of happiness: Dopamine, Oxytocin, Serotonin, and Endorphins.

But did you know that for some – like me – writing can do the same?

I find writing arousing, sensual, and sexy as you know what. Here’s why …

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1. Vulnerability is key. Writers are naked with their thoughts and dare to be exhibitionists with them.
2. Overthinking kills the spontaneity. And it will give you a headache, which usually eliminates the mood.
3. It can’t be forced. It’s an artful expression that demands patience and delicate seduction.
4. There’s no wrong way to do it! Let it be playful, an experiment, and an avenue to let go of your inhibitions.
5. There are times for it to move slowly and times for it to be fast and furious. Go with the flow and see where it takes you.
6. You can keep it to yourself, but it’s more fun to share with others.

A Facebook friend once told me: “It doesn’t have to be brilliant. It just has to be honest.” One of the finest pieces of writing advice I’ve ever been given. And perhaps one of the most scintillating tips for sex too.

So if you’re trying to get into writing, for whatever reason, just start. Don’t let your anxieties, insecurities, or perfectionism tendencies get in the way. Your audience is waiting for the kind of expression only you can make. Even if that audience is only you.

If you take these points into consideration, both writing and sex can have a very satisfying ending. And if you aren’t “in the mood” for one, try the other. You’ve got nothing to lose and hey, who knows, maybe it will get you all revved up to release yourself liberally with the other activity.

Picture credit: Roman Odintsov, Pexels

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“A word after a word after a word is power.”

Margaret Atwood